Want your best relationship ever? Read on for ways to strengthen your relationships.
1. Make a Commitment to Growth: therapy, like the gym, works best if you go before the “cat hits the fan.” Seeing a therapist one time a month is an affordable way to do relationship maintenance. Think of it this way, we get the most joy from our relationships when they are good; it is fair to say, when they are not good, theopposite is true. Many successful businesses incorporate consultation, and the same can be said for successful marriages.
2. Turn towards Your Tribe: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards) them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship
3. Know Your Tribe: know your partner and your children. Know their likes and dislikes. Create rituals together that are just for the tribe. You are only as strong as your weakest link, and if one of the members of your tribe is hurting, the rest are affected.
4. Create Tribal Traditions: Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationships. Create shared meaning, what makes your unit unique? How do the people you call ‘family’ know you unlike anyone else?
5. Manage Inner Tribe Conflict: conflict is a part of life, the sooner you learn how to have effective conflict, the better your relationships will operate. Every relationship has perpetual problems, and every relationship has solvable ones. The key is managing these areas in effective ways.
6. Create an Atmosphere of Trust: trust is paramount in all relationships. Providing your partner and family with an atmosphere that maximizes individual and group needs creates an unbreakable foundation for healthy relating.
7. Renew Commitment to your Tribe: we renew contracts, lease agreements and other legally binding relationships in our life without question of their necessity. Relationships should be the same. Revisiting your goals for the year, growth and family gains (i.e. emotional, physical, spiritual) can be an empowering way to recognize growth, and renegotiate change. Trust me. You won’t regret this!
Watch this video to learn more about building trust.