Using the healthy relationship approach I work with clients on healing addictions and their underlying causes. My approach includes comprehensive treatment modules used by The Meadows, Life Healing Center, and The Ranch treatment facilities. I am able to support individuals, couples and families in the treatment of and recovery from sex and love addiction. In addition to personal consultations, I offer a Love Addiction and Love Avoidance Therapy Group, which meets on the 2nd and 4th Thursdays of the month. See below for more information on this service.
Wondering if you suffer from Love Addiction? Check out my Love Addiction Assessment. Wondering if you could be struggling with sexual addiction? Check out the Sexual Addiction Assessment. You can also determine if your relationship exhibits signs of addictive love by taking my Relationship Assessment.
Common Questions about Love Addiction
What Is Love Addiction?
People develop addictions to shield themselves from intolerably painful feelings. An addiction always creates harmful, often ignored consequences. Only when the addiction becomes unmanageable will people do something about it.
Love addicts spend much time, effort on a person to whom they are addicted. Love addicts value this person above themselves, and their focus on the beloved other often is obsessive.
This behavior results in love addicts neglecting to care for themselves in a variety of ways, in essence abandoning important aspects of their lives and well-being to stay connected to the object of their affections.
Are only partners addicted to each other?
Love addiction doesn’t necessarily pertain only to romantic or sexual relationships. It is possible for a person to relate as a love addict with their friends, children, sponsor, guru or religious figure, parent, or even with a movie star, whom they have never met.
A love addict’s core fantasy is the expectation that someone else can solve their problems, provide unconditional positive regard at all times, and take care of them. When this unrealistic need isn’t met, love addicts may find themselves feeling resentful, and may create conflict in their relationships with others.
Some love addicts find that when not involved in a love-addicted relationship, they are able to care for themselves quite adequately. However, when they become involved, the love addict quickly finds that their self-care capacity steadily declines.
What Causes Love Addiction?
People generally become love addicts due to a past history of abandonment from their primary caregivers. Adult love addicts usually recognized as children that their most precious needs for validation, love and connection with one or both parents were not met. This affects their self-esteem dramatically in adult life. It results in a conscious fear of abandonment and an underlying subconscious fear of intimacy. To a love addict, intensity in a relationship is often mistaken for intimacy.
What Can I do?
Love addicts experience withdrawal symptoms. Working with a therapist can help guide the love addict through the process of talking about childhood experiences of abandonment, navigating through the feelings of pain, fear, anger and emptiness that may surface, and releasing old emotions that contribute to negative acting-out behaviors.
A solid relationship with a skilled therapist trained in love and sex addiction can help guide the love addict through this process.
As with any addiction, recovery from love addiction is a process of self-discovery. It requires taking specific steps: breaking through denial and acknowledging the addiction; owning the harmful consequences of the addiction; and intervening to stop the addictive cycle from occurring.
How Can Life Love Healing Help?
I am a certified Love Addiction Healthy Relationship Clinical Practitioner trained by Brenda Schaeffer author of "Is It Love or Is It Addiction." Using the healthy relationship approach I work with clients on healing addictions and their underlying causes. My approach includes comprehensive treatment modules used by The Meadows, Life Healing Center, and The Ranch treatment facilities. I am able to support individuals, couples and families in the treatment of and recovery from sex and love addiction. Contact me today to discuss how I can help in your healing process. Learn more about my approach to Love Addiction here.
Love Addiction and Love Avoidance Therapy Group (Dates to be Announced)
The focus of this group is to help individuals struggling with codependency and love addiction in intimate relationships identify healthy ways of relating and avoid unhealthy behaviors. This is a closed group for current therapy clients. The group will provide a confidential setting to process trauma as it relates to addiction and support ongoing recovery.
Some Areas of Focus
• Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries
• Understanding what drives addiction
• Creating support and accountability
• Identifying healthy and unhealthy relationship patterns
• Working the 7 steps from addiction to healthy belonging
• Having support for letting go of unhealthy relationships
• Processing underlying causes of addiction
Cost: $80 per session
Please contact me for more information about this service.